May 21

Proverbs: Control of the tongue

Have you ever squeezed too much toothpaste out of the tube? Once toothpaste is out, it can't be put back. It's the same with what we say. Once words leave your mouth, you can't take them back.

Words are powerful. That's clear from today's reading. The two types of speech outlined are foolish and wise. Foolish talk brings pain, destruction, ruin, judgment. The tongue of the wise brings gladness, rejoicing, healing to the bones, sweetness to the soul and comfort. Proverb 15:1 says "A gentle answer turns away wrath" Its very important to be aware of what we are saying. James 3 describes how the tongue is a small part of the body that can bring great evil. Like a spark setting a forest on fire, or a rudder steering a huge ship, the small tongue can have a great effect, for good or for evil. Proverb 16:23 says "A wise man's heart guides his mouth" The words that we say are a reflection of what's in our heart.

We are all aware of the saying "sticks and stones may break my bones but words will never hurt me." Too bad this is a lie. Personally, I find words can be more painful than physical wounds (I'm sure many of you would agree with me). Memories of physical pain fades, but hurtful words can wound someone for many years. I would almost rather be punched in the face, than be hurt by someones words.

Slander, gossip, hurtful talk, quarreling, lying. These are all things that poison our hearts and lead us to ruin. Remember, be slow to speak. Think about what you say before you say it. Ask yourself, "Is this what God would want me to say?" Wisdom also means knowing when to be silent. Sometimes the best thing to say is nothing at all.

Proverbs 21:23 "He who guards his mouth and his tongue keeps himself from calamity."